Do you offer ADHD coaching in Winchester and online?

Yes. I coach adults with ADHD in Winchester (in-person) and online across the UK and internationally.

Who is ADHD coaching for?

Adults who want practical tools and compassionate accountability to improve focus, planning, emotional regulation, and work–life balance. Many are professionals or leaders seeking clarity and sustainable habits.

What happens in a session?

We set a clear goal, map patterns, break blocks and create simple, personalised experiments. Expect tools for time blocking, prioritising, nervous system regulation, and communication. You leave with a concise action plan after doing deep work to unlock energy and potential.

How long are sessions and how often do we meet?

Standard sessions are 60 minutes, typically every 1-2 weeks for 3–6 months. Intensives and VIP days are available.

Is this therapy or medical treatment?

No. Coaching is future-focused and skill-building. It does not diagnose or treat medical conditions. I can collaborate with your clinicians if helpful.

Do you work with clients who are undiagnosed or self-identified as ADHD?

Yes. Many clients come without a formal diagnosis. We focus on goals and strategies that support how your brain works.

Packages and VIP options are available. Each tailored to your individual needs.

How do I get started?

Book a free discovery call to check fit and goals. If we proceed, you’ll receive a simple intake form and a tailored plan.

Do you support employers or teams?

Yes. I provide workplace ADHD coaching and workshops. Enquiries are welcome.

Reclaiming Your Self-Worth: Breaking Free from People-Pleasing and Emotional Burnout

Katarzyna Chini
Nov 8
3 min read

Feeling invisible can be one of the most isolating experiences, especially for those who prioritise others over themselves. Many women fill roles as caregivers, friends, and cheerleaders, but they often feel overlooked in their own lives. This post is a guide to reclaiming self-worth by addressing the challenges of people-pleasing, anxiety, and burnout. We will also explore practical steps to help you set emotional boundaries.

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Understanding People-Pleasing Dynamics

The cycle of people-pleasing often starts innocently. Many women are raised to put others first, seeking acceptance and love. Research shows that up to 75% of women report feeling responsible for others’ happiness. Over time, this behavior can lead to chronic anxiety and burnout as the emotional toll of constantly catering to others’ needs becomes unbearable.

When you always prioritise the needs of others, it can create immense pressure. The pressure to be the strong one can overshadow your own emotional needs, leading to a profound sense of feeling unseen and unheard. This neglect of self can manifest physically and emotionally, with symptoms like headaches and irritability.

The Importance of Recognising Burnout

Recognising burnout is crucial for reclaiming your self-worth. Symptoms include:

Chronic fatigue: Feeling drained even after a full night's sleep.
Detachment from life: A sense that your own goals and emotions have become irrelevant.

When you recognise these signs, take a step back. Ask yourself: Are you prioritising the demands of others over your own needs? Are your emotional boundaries being respected?

Setting Boundaries for Self-Worth

Establishing emotional boundaries is a vital step in this journey. Learning to say no without guilt is essential. Studies show that 60% of women feel guilty when they refuse requests, but it's important to remember that self-care is not selfish. It is a necessary part of emotional health.

One effective strategy for setting boundaries is practicing assertive communication. Instead of saying, "I can't help you right now," try, "I need to prioritise my well-being now." This shift can help reclaim your voice and assert your needs without guilt.

Recognising Your Inherent Value

Women often tie their self-worth to their ability to care for others. However, it’s essential to understand that self-worth is inherent. Reflection and self-compassion can help you reconnect with your value. Engage in activities that remind you of your worth, whether it's through journaling, meditation, or simply taking a walk in nature.

The Power of Self-Care

Self-care is crucial in combating anxiety and burnout. Activities such as:

Engaging in hobbies: Try painting, writing, or cooking to re-discover what brings you joy.
Spending time outdoors: Nature can significantly reduce stress levels and boost mood.

Incorporating these activities into your routine can help you reconnect with yourself and your interests.

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Seeking Support

Sharing your experiences with friends, family, or professionals can provide invaluable support. A coaching service, like Lumivera Coaching, helps women navigate the complexities of people-pleasing and emotional burnout. Engaging with a community can give you encouragement, making you feel less isolated on your journey.

Embracing Change in Relationships

As you reclaim your self-worth, you'll notice shifts in your relationships. Setting boundaries often leads to healthier dynamics where both parties feel respected. This balance can result in deeper connections and a greater sense of fulfillment in your personal life.

The Non-Linear Journey of Self-Worth

Reclaiming self-worth is rarely a straight path. You may experience ups and downs along the way, and setbacks may occur. With persistence and self-compassion, women can break free from the cycle of people-pleasing and emotional burnout.

Nurturing Yourself

The journey of self-discovery is about prioritising your needs and desires equally. By embracing self-worth, women can cultivate a sense of joy and fulfillment that enhances their relationships and overall well-being.

As you embark on this path, remember that you are not alone. Many share similar experiences, and by connecting with others, you can create a supportive community for growth and healing. It's time to let go of the demands of people-pleasing and fully embrace the beauty of your self-worth.